Leveling the Playing Field
I think it is fair to say that you, like many men, think that in the game of relationships, the deck seems stacked, and NOT in your favor.
You are given tools to be successful in some areas of life, but they are often not the same tools necessary to have success in relationships.
It is a gross generalization, but culturally, and perhaps somewhat biologically, women are set up to "win" in the area of having, forging and maintaining relationships. Men are set up to win in other areas, like the doing of your purpose - especially in the areas of business, sports, making money, etc.
Quick example. I know when I put myself in a typically male environment, like a game of foosball, say, I can really get intimidated. I think, these guys all know the guidelines, they have been practicing, and I am just a poor schmuck that is going to get whomped by that puck any moment now.
This is what a lot of guys feel like setting foot into the game of relationship: "These girls know all the guidelines, they have been practicing, and I am just a poor schmuck that is going to get whomped any moment now."
(Please know that I know that there are plenty of women who kick ass at foosball, and that all men were not born with chips in your brain making you a stellar business man, sports player or what have you.)
In relationships, you guys are expected to step up to the plate, but you've been given less access to the tools. You are also discouraged from practicing the tools.
Ever have your woman take a workshop or read a new book and then you are left in the dust? Ever get seriously confused when a woman started using something called "The Rules" on you? Maybe you've tried your hardest at a relationship and it didn't work?
Maybe you've been disappointed, so you've given up in advance to avoid future failure. Maybe you think you have no time, or no energy for relationships. Maybe you fear your freedom will be compromised if you are in relationship.
But I tell you, relationships aren't the problem. You've just had a crappy set of experiences up until now .
You may not be aware of it, but guys have been seriously oppressed around emotions, feelings, sex, any sign of perceived weakness, and any area that smells a little like relationships, like talking, feeling or sharing.
No wonder you avoid it all, or have bad behavior around relationships.
Again, you just need practical information and tools and some gentle but firm ass-kicking. That's what I am here for.
Here are some of the areas that will help level the playing field:
Get to know a little about the unique creature, Woman:
Some nuts and bolts for interacting with women:
Some information and tools for you guys:
Go to What Women Want From Men
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