What Women Want From Men

You might think there is something elusive that women want from men, that you could never possibly figure out.

Or a list of things so endless you could never satisfy her.

But really what women want from men is relatively simple.

We want your presence, your attention on us. We can feel you feeling us, and that is hot. We come alive under your attention. This goes for big things and small alike - a conversation, sex, a lifetime partnership, and the other moments in between.

There are more superficial things women want from men, that vary from woman to woman. I am not denying this. But that is not what we are examining here. We are talking about on a more profound level, what the soul of woman wants from a man.

What attracts a woman to a man is his presence, his rooted-ness, his strong, still center, like the eye of the storm. We women want men to pay bold attention to us, witness us, see us, enjoy us, celebrate us, and bring some rooting and grounding to the storm of creation, flux and change that we are.

What we need is NOT a superficial type of strength or calm. And we don't need you to be "strong" all the time. What I am talking about is your nature, your birthright, and is available to you in an instant, at any moment.

On one level, yes, she might still want you to eat better and get to the gym, since a guy who takes care of himself is of course attractive, but on a real level, on a heart level, on a partnership level, a woman wants a man who can stand his ground, not run in the face of her emotional storms or mind-changing, who is emotionally present, who she can count on, who had her back.

Of course we are attracted to a myriad of superficial attributes in a man, but without a witness, without grounding, we can be a real mess. We can certainly provide grounding for ourselves, but in playing the game of attraction, we look for it in a man.

We want you to be doing all the things that make you centered, rooted, grounded and strong.

We want to know you have our backs, and that we are on your mind. We want you to tell us so, show us so.

And then, the keys to the kingdom are yours. Treat a woman well, she will give you the world.

This may not be EASY, but what women want from men is simple.

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